A
Prayer for Mandy
Kate Santich
December 24, 2000
At
the home of Mandy Bradshaw, you can feel it. It is in the
red ribbons that grace the fence posts and encircle the big
oak tree out front.
It
is in the flier on the back of the truck in the driveway:
Pray for Mandy's Healing. It is in the eyes of a tired mother
and the faces of the volunteers who come every day now.
And it is in the words of the young woman's grandfather, Mike
Farley, who looks at Mandy and says quietly, "Maybe we'll have
a Christmas miracle."
It is hope, and you can see it in Mandy Bradshaw herself.
Though she is 20 now, there is wonder in her face. Her dark
eyes follow visitors around the room. Her mouth curls into a
smile. She lets out little bursts of laughter at silliness and
frivolity and irony. A small figure in a wheelchair, she manages
to seem both vulnerable and inexplicably strong.
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Barbara Langer is
one of over a hundred volunteers who provide physical therapy
for Mandy.
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Rick Bradshaw and Mandy
laugh at each other.
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"She's
always been non-stop, vivacious, always making jokes, always
laughing," says her mother, Pam Bradshaw. "If Mandy was at church
and she saw someone standing by themselves, she'd go introduce
herself and strike up a conversation."
Farley nods. "She's the type who walks into a room and lights
it up," he says.
At Longwood's Northland Community Church, not far from her home,
Mandy was among a half-dozen singers handpicked to perform for
the worship service, and she volunteered as a mentor to middle-school
kids. In 1998, she graduated from Lyman High School, where she
was voted funniest girl in the senior class. Her nickname, "Mouth
of the South," was a comment on goofiness, not sarcasm.
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It
was typical Mandy that when a boy with a learning disability
was shunned by prospective dates for the Lyman prom, she happily
invited him to go with her.
She was taking classes at Seminole Community College, hoping
to become an elementary school teacher, when her life was catastrophically
interrupted. On Aug. 3, 1999, while Mandy was heading to a church
service with a friend, a driver in an oncoming lane suffered
a seizure, crossed the median, and hit Mandy's Nissan Sentra
head on.
Mandy had been sitting, as she usually did, quite close to the
steering wheel. Between the impact with the other car and the
inflation of her air bag, the crash snapped her head forward
and back, bouncing her brain against her cranium. Doctors describe
it as an adult version of shaken-baby syndrome.
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Pam Bradshaw and Mandy.
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Mandy and Stella.
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She
spent the first five months in the hospital, much of it in a
coma.
But within two hours of the accident, 100 or more friends and
family members gathered in the waiting room, the news spread
by word of mouth.
They held a candlelight vigil the next night. The pastor at
Northland gave updates during his weekly sermon. The church
-- where Mandy's dad, Rick, is an usher and Mandy's 16-year-old
brother, Joey, volunteers -- even set up a telephone hotline
for progress reports.
The doctors urged the family not to hope, but every time they
looked at Mandy, they couldn't stop themselves.
The first smile came two months after the crash.
"She
smiled at my nephew, who is a year and a half old, and everybody
just started screaming for joy," Pam says. "But then it took
another month to see the next one."
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Last
January, Mandy came home to the family's crowded, single-story
block house in an older neighborhood of Longwood. Her bedroom
was too small to accommodate the hospital bed and wheelchair
and oxygen tanks, so she stays in the living room, a tiny Christmas
tree perched on an armoire in the corner.
All
around her, there are signs of the outpouring. There is the
hardwood floor a church member donated so Mandy's wheelchair
could be pushed about. There is the legion of volunteers, now
104 strong, who take turns manning the thrice-daily therapy
sessions that keep Mandy's limbs flexible and her mind and spirit
stimulated. There is the van in the driveway -- complete with
wheelchair lift -- willed to the family by a Northland member
who passed away.
There
is Ellen Kaslewicz, who comes to clean house once a week, though
she has four kids of her own and runs a business. There is Sue
Hilinski, who sits with Mandy for hours to stroke her face and
tell her jokes. There are neighbors who, like the Bradshaws,
tied red ribbons around a tree or lamppost or mailbox and vowed
to leave them there until Mandy is healed.
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Rick, Pam, and Mandy.
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There is an anonymous contractor who is building a $38,000 addition
to the Bradshaw's home, free of charge, so Mandy can have her
own room and private bath.
And there is Fred Langer, who designed a Web site -- www.pray4mandy.com
-- to ask visitors to implore their maker for a miracle. In
two months, it has drawn nearly 2,000 people.
So while Pam lost her job as a bank teller because she missed
too much work caring for her daughter, and while the family
now lives on Rick's salary from a carpet-cleaning and restoration
firm, and while the mound of bills grows taller and the insurance
companies threaten to take away the $5,000 air mattress that
has spared Mandy bed sores -- there are little victories.
Mandy has beaten double pneumonia, a staph infection and endured
surgery to remove an intravenous guide wire that had lodged
in her aorta. She began to move her head, then her arms, and
in the last couple of months she said her first word. "The only
thing she can say so far is `hi,' " Kaslewicz says. "And it
takes about 20 seconds to get the `hi' out. But it's a start."
And there is nothing wrong with Mandy's vocal cords, so Pam
Bradshaw prays that one day in the not-so-distant future she
will hear her daughter's voice lift in song, the way it used
to.
"Sometimes
I still think, `Why did it have to be my daughter?' " she admits.
"Sometimes I still get angry."
She is, after all, only human. But these days the anger doesn't
come as often, nor does it stay long.
"Every
time I start to doubt, God shows me a way to keep going," she
says. "There is always hope."
Kate
Santich is a writer for Florida Magazine.
Copyright
© 2000, Orlando Sentinel
(reprinted with permission)
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(note: This website, www.pray4mandy.com,
was originally conceived and begun by Deborah Downing - thanks Deb!)
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